timewaters annoy me

quote kansai-sayuri :

I think that this last post takes the quoted post out of context or it may have simply been misunderstood (ie the girl -is- courteously 'giving' -not- 'receiving' advance notice in the case she -may- not be available as opposed to saying nothing at all); or I'm misunderstanding, and this lists justifications for the lack of a courtesy notification related to a customer canceling. Likely it is about an even earlier post which has a somewhat closer theme. It's understandably easy to mix things up when there are so many things to read. Anyway, I guess I will focus on notification, lack of it, or indecision.

In any case, as this falls directly within a field that I know a bit about: from a strategic point of view, with the exception of extenuating circumstances, a certain amount of courtesy is expected to exist between any business, or customer for that matter, regardless of the type. The good reasons for this are far too numerous to list and it's simpler to say: to be otherwise often costs business or causes hassles; and not necessarily in the way one may expect. For example, in the case of escorting: a lack of courtesy notification, -possibly- 'jading' girls who then begin overbooking, affecting other customers, all the way back to a person who may have contributed to 'jading' such girls. Said person is then, quite contradictorily, upset about being stood up or being baited and switched, possibly but not surely going to his 2nd choice. While only anecdotal this is the type of reason as to why contracts exist between businesses as well as customers whether formal or implied. It would not be imprudent to keep in mind that our own decisions may end up causing trouble for people that we don't even know, and such is best considered lest it happens to ourself. Certainly one cannot condone such 'jaded' girls' behavior but it is not difficult to point to things that can cause such behavior. Before its said that 'that is part of the business', please be aware that this statement is ideological, and often not congruent with reality when psychology is brought into the mix. That is to say that, unfortunately, human psychology does not take this into account as any organizational psychologist would tell you. People get frustrated about many things that are 'part of the job' in any kind of business, sometimes even with things that don't ordinarily bother the majority, causing them to behave negatively. Evidence for this behavior is seen everywhere including on this board.

Unfortunately, no matter what is preferred, a business, including escorting as a business, is responsible for -all- its customers. This is precisely the reason for business theory and why it is difficult to make customer policy: nobody wants a one size fits all policy, but since one customer's needs transgress another customer's needs, such a policy is essentially what is necessary at least to some extent. In other words there is a reason for the policy that many of us want at least a day of notification before a meeting. It is then difficult to amend the policy to imply we must wait on the whim of men. This is not only a contradiction for the obvious reason but also can be a contradiction in relation to the responsibility one has toward -all- customers. Of course 'time wasting' will never be entirely avoided but policy should help avoid circumstances other than the extenuating. Additionally, while many things, including an escort may be a luxury buy, all businesses are expected to maximize their profit or at least their time. This should not and is not unfamiliar nor surprising to customers.

Yes, certainly in business things come up, causing schedules to change; for me everyday in fact. That does not mean that it would be bright of me to break a meeting with a supplier without notification in order to meet with a customer that quickly needs a problem solved. In the 'extenuating circumstance' that I am unable to notify the supplier, I would certainly make contact as soon as possible to explain and apologize, in order to avoid problems down the road....problems that, again, I may not be able to foresee. Additionally, I would go to great lengths to not let it happen again. While I am not referring directly to escorting here, regardless, canceling business meetings (of which from a purely inferential point of view escorting qualifies) without proper notification is unconscionable if it can easily be avoided. Of course this doesn't only apply in business but also for life in general.

I absolutely agree that this is good to talk about so that others know that this business is really no different than other businesses in terms of the difficulties of doing business. In fact it is not at all different from other businesses and should not be expected to be otherwise simply because of stigma....though that is how some attempt to treat it.

quote Michael2015 :

KS, things I'll never B include being a time-waster, big talker, or liar.